Comments on: Raising Children – my letter to my son.

By: djinn

djinn — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 03:04:04 +0000

I’m so glad you printed this. Personally, I was horrified at Margaret Young’s ‘letter’ to her son. Does she really think that her 18 year old son can’t use the internet? The woman posts under her own name, for someone or other’s sake. She’s just telling the poor kid that he will never be good enough for her with lots of fluffy, fluffy language (and let’s not mention the perfect use of the apostrophe.) Poor kid! I knew a tremendously sweet Mormon man with the same attitude towards his ‘wayward’ 18 year old. The kid helped out at the homeless shelter and was only wayward for very small (e.g. Mormon)values–he didn’t make it to 19.

But if M. Young’s kid committed suicide, I imagine another beautiful post about how she’s waiting to see him in heaven, with an equally large chorus of well-wishers.

It’s so freakin’ sad. I just about can’t stand it. Ruin your kid’s life and get tons of applause; something is wrong here.

By: Andrew S.

Andrew S. — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 23:17:03 +0000

Well, after my experiences with BCC (with run-ins with moderation), I think they just want to maintain their kind of “country club” atmosphere…comments that shake the chummy environment will naturally be pruned or deleted outright.

It isn’t necessarily bad or good (I personally have a different, more hands-off philosophy regarding moderation), but it just represents the different character of sites.

I can say that if I post under either of my two email addresses, even to this day, my comment will go into a black hole of moderation where it will never come out. BCCers will apologize and say, “Oh, I don’t know how that got there,” but really, excuses don’t really change the fact that I’m still on auto-mod.

Whatever.

Back to the topic at hand. Even though I disagree with Margaret (and it’s a dynamic I face to an extent with my parent), I think that “unconditional love” ends up being a kind of myth anyway. We have to understand that for Margaret and many other believers, the church has been incredible to them. Despite the hiccups and issues, the church has been the source of spiritual advancement and enlightenment, the gospel an anchor for values and happiness, and so on. So, it can seem like wishing the best for a child is to wish that they stay in the church. Sure, it’s easy for some one of us to say, “Well, one can be happy outside of the church…so one should be happy for their child if they are happy, healthy, and productive, not simply if they are in the church”…but as even we should know…the church is much more pervasive in mindsets.

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Sunday in Outer Blogness: Patriotic Politics Edition! | Main Street Plaza — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 22:27:57 +0000

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By: Marcus

Marcus — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 13:18:38 +0000

Your not the only one, I think I read that Andrew at Irresistible (Dis)Grace has been semi-permanently been silenced from commenting all together. That could be vicious rumor though, you’d have to ask him

By: admin

admin — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 19:32:09 +0000

Sadly enough, this morning I found out By Common Consent had deleted my comment on their post and decided to close all comments after that.

So much for their statement on their Info and Contact page:

We seek truth, reason, and honesty with our perspectives on faith. However, BCC is a place of charitable discussion for everyone, including those who are not Mormon. We invite you to read past posts and join in the discussion.

…riiiight.